Tuesday, July 2, 2013

7 Most Morbid Victorian Mourning Traditions

7 most morbid Victorian mourning traditions 
Postmortem portrait of your beloved, anyone? 
By  Melissa Breyer
Article from Huffinton Post (see link below)

Postmortem portrait
Parents pose with their deceased daughter. (Photo: Wikimedia Commons)
Halloween’s ghouls, goblins, ghosts and skeletons — we may get dark and creepy about death one day a year, but we’ve got nothing on the Victorians. While people of the 19th century were wildly repressed about many things, their comfort with death was a far cry from modern sentiments.
Nowhere is this more evident than in British mourning etiquette during the time of Queen Victoria’s reign (1837 to 1901). The death of her husband, Prince Albert, in 1861 ushered in a rigorous display of mourning that set the stage for the general culture to follow. What became customary mourning, by today’s standards, seems downright macabre and morose. So in honor of the upcoming All Hallows' Eve, when all things turn spooky and spine-chilling, here’s a look at what was once the ghoulish norm.
1. Postmortem portraits
Prior to 1839 portraits were painted, but with the invention of the daguerreotype photograph, portraiture become more affordable and accessible. This meant that the middle class could now afford to have pictures taken to memorialize their loved ones — their dead loved ones, that is, and particularly infants and children. With the invention of the carte de visite in the middle of the century came multiple prints so that families could share pictures of their dead children with other family members and friends. Since most children would not have had their images captured prior to their untimely deaths, it makes perfect sense; although the practice would seem utterly taboo in contemporary Western culture. 
2. The living dead
Since the idea of postmortem portraits was to have something to remember the deceased by, there was often staging and post-photo work done to achieve the effect of life. Bodies were posed in lifelike positions, surrounded by family, children holding favorite toys, and eyes often propped open. Sometimes, pupils were painted on in the studio and rosy cheeks were added to the image of the corpse.
3. Coal for jewelry
The material most prized to show grief was lignite, also known as jet, a fossilized form of coal. Jet is deep, dark and somber. In the first phase of mourning, jet jewelry was the only ornamentation women were allowed to wear.
4. Wearing the hair of the dead
While women were only supposed to wear jet for the first stage, during the second stage of mourning one could wear a piece of jewelry if it contained, or was made of, hair. That would be human hair. That would be human hair taken from the deceased love one. Brooches, bracelets, rings, chains and buckles were all made of hair; sometimes there was just a bit enclosed in a hollow band or brooch, other times, the hair was crafted into a piece of its own.
5. Cloaked in heavy veils and bonnets
A widow was to wear a bonnet of heavy crepe and a veil to cover the face for the first three months. At the end of three months the veil was to be worn from the back of the bonnet for another nine months. Altogether, restrictive mourning dress, known as widow's weeds, was to be worn for a minimum of two years, although many widows chose to shun color forever.
6. Haunted houses
Once a member of the house died, all of the mirrors in the house were to be covered. If a mirror in the house fell and broke, it was thought that someone in the home would die soon. When someone died in the house, the clock was to be stopped at the hour of death or bad luck would ensue. When a body was removed from the house, it had to be taken head-first so that it could not beckon others to follow.
7. Saved by the bell
Calling Edgar Allen Poe. Not really a mourning tradition, but a good sign of the times: Coffin alarms. The fear of being buried alive was so severe that a device known as a coffin alarm was invented. The contraption was simply a bell attached to the headstone with a chain that connected to a ring placed on the finger of the corpse. (Gives the term "dead ringer" a whole new meaning.)

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Big Pharma runs America. It controls our government and it controls the citizens via government, health care, etc. If we stay sick, they  make money. Learn and understand what our food products are made of and how they are made. It's not looking good, folks. It's time to get proactive and make a change for the better.


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

My interview with the most macabre Mistress of Gothic Tea Society has been posted. Please, click the link to be transported to that wonderfully dark page of devilish temptations, creepy, highly illustrative articles, and stories of perversions and the like. Enjoy!

Gothic Tea Society 

Saturday, June 1, 2013

The following is my response to a comment on my Facebook page. I just wanted to share this as much as I can. 

Well, I got on Facebook to reply to a comment that I saw late last night posted to one of my posted. It was the post with the photo of the woman and man with paper bags on their heads with the words slut and stud written on them. I cannot find this photo now. It appears to have been deleted. **GASP** Boobs were exposed in a completely innocuous way. I chose not to reply last night because it really irked me. For those of you who know me, you know how difficult it was for me to keep my mouth shut. Seriously.

Now to reply to a comment that pretty much said that the mainstream media is here to stay and control us. It asked how would we even know who was pretty or not, if not for the media telling us. It goes on in this manner.

My response, as best as I can mange without the exact comment to reply to:

First of all, how did the neanderthal know who was attractive or not? Did media exist then? Attraction is a chemical reaction within the brain that sends signals to the rest of the body. Plain and simple answer that I will not elaborate upon because, really, it isn't necessary.

Next, if we never question anything and accept everything at face value, how do we ever evolve as a species? We don't. If we all believed what the media told us, we would still live in the dark ages. It would be illegal for African Americans and Caucasians to interact on a equal level. Women would STILL NOT be able to vote. Homosexuality would be in the closet only or else be ostracized. These are positive changes in the world.

Now, lets look at the other side:

Women, and esp. young girls, are starving themselves, cutting themselves, hiding themselves, shamed and saddened, etc. all because they don't feel that they can live up to the so-called normal standard that the main stream media shoves in everyone's face daily. This is a fact. Now, if we don't try to change this attitude through activism, what are we to do? Sit back a let it be becausesupposedly that's just how it is? NO! That is the thinking of sheep who are either too lazy, too ignorant, or too brainwashed to motivate change and be proactive. I could continue to write about this, but I hope this little snippet of my opinion, and the facts as I understand them, is understood without the excess explanation.

When we sit idle, we become the sheep. We wait for the owner to come and toss us into the meat grinder. We have lost all sense of self and will become brainwashed robots.

I will not sit be and become a brainwashed idiot who cannot think for myself, and I don't expect anyone else to do so either.

With that, I will close this post.

Remember: LOVE IS ALL and WE ARE ONE.


Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Please take the time to watch this educational movie. It's so vitally important to spread the message. Too many sheep walking freely into the meat grinder--the machine. Get your ACTIVISM on!!!

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Acid Attack Victim Commits Suicide

"More than 8,500 acid attacks, forced marriages and other forms of violence against women were reported in Pakistan in 2011, according to The Aurat Foundation, a women's rights organization."


This is why we need to stand strong and continue to fight for the rights of women all around the world. Women in America may think that women have all of the rights as the patriarchy, but this isn't the truth. Women in many other countries usually have no rights. This is cause for change, for protest, for women to stand together and protect one another.

This must stop.


Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Are Men Trained To Hate Women?


I first saw the link to this article on my Facebook wall via a post that Z Budapest shared. It is truely a sad statement about society, but it's the utter truth. So sad, and yet so true.